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This is my first night back home after spending the most wonderful week with my so..... After a week I got so used to him being there, I just can't sleep. We went horse back riding, and he kinda tried to teach me how to snow board(I think I broke my butt) and ate at a lot of cute little places i am glad we found. Definitely my favorite part of the whole trip was getting to hug, kiss him and annoy him. . . oh, and there was that whole celebrating chanuka (spelling?) that was fun too. I love his whole family. and we are slowly starting to make plans for maybe me moving out to cali within the next few months. . . (fingers crossed)so if anyone knows of any good bakeries or cae shops let me know... pics coming soon. Hopefully. If he ever sends them to me. haha

Hey, guys. This community was recommended to me, and I was told that you were accepting of relationships that don't quite fit the norm. I'm already in polyamorous and bisexual communities, but I've been looking for a good LD one, too, just to cover all my bases. =D I'm actually in two LDRs, but only one is really serious, so I'll post about her here.

My name: Taylor (female).

Her name: Sara.

I live: in Indiana.

She lives: in California.

My age: 21.

Her age: 21.

Distance: About 3 and a half hours by car, plus 6 hours by plane. I don't know actual miles.

Together since: Early 2008.

How we met: Through a mutual friend. We all went to a gay rights meeting thing. She told me I was cute, and we started dating soon after. She moved away after we had been dating a few months.

We get to see each other (approximately how often): On average, every 8 months or so? I'm going to see her again next month.

Future plans: Living together once I graduate college, and possibly marriage--depends on how California feels about it, I guess.

Share some photos: Sorry, secret account. =D

To comment quickly on my other LDR, I'm also dating Sara's boyfriend/roommate, John. It's a complicated situation, feel free to ask questions, I love talking about it. =D Alternatively, you're all welcome to check out my profile to get the story.

I kind of want to set an official date for our anniversary. But I haven't got a clue where we started.  XD

I'm curious.

What date do you guys choose to mark an anniversary - the date when you became "official"?

How do you know when it's official? Is it the date you first starting talking? The date when s/he said I like you and want to be with you? Is it when s/he first said "I love you"?

If you met online, is it the date when you first met offline?

What if you've never met IRL, hesitantly became an "online couple", got frustrated and broke up, came back together, and then finally met each other IRL? Is it the date when you've reunited? (I hope that makes sense; this is my case!)

Is it when its become SD?

...Or do you just pick a random date with no significance and make it your anniversary?


Ahhhhhh.  XD  Something so simple becomes complicated!

Does anyone know what the difference between UK icing sugar and US powdered sugar is? I've been looking around, and I can't figure it out, but I know there is definitely a difference.

Update on this post I made a few days ago!

I have wonderful news for those of you who, like me, have been following the British Airways strike planned for Christmas (12/22-1/2): The union has been blocked from striking! Regardless of the legitimate reasons or the illegitimate reasons behind the strike, I am just SO relieved that this won't interfere with me seeing my boy next week! It's been four-and-a-half months, and being so close yet so far would drive me bonkers! Thanks, everyone, for your well-wishes, crossed fingers, and positive thoughts:)

Garry and I can't be together over the holidays and our time on oovoo will be limited since I will be in Ohio and then I'll come back to a roomie next semester.  So we were enjoying our time on it tonight.  I decided to take a few snap shots and share them with you :)

( Routine Goodnights )

PS. My last name isn't Juarez yet...but will be one day.  I just decided to change it for fun :D  A girl can dream right?

First off, my hats off to all you lucky ladies and gents who are getting to hang out with your SO this holiday season. I won't lie, I'm really jealous. ^^

This is my second Christmas as a girlfriend, and our second as a long distance couple; last year, he was still at home with his family while I was trying to find a job in Wisconsin. It was also my first Christmas away from home, so it was very stressful and lonely, but he did his best to make me feel better about it.

This year, he's in college and I'm at work in Ohio. Again, because I started in the middle of the year and therefore all the senior folks had reserved Christmas holidays before me, I can't fly home. :\ He's flying back home to Texas to spend the time with his family, which I can understand; I don't quite have the money right now to fly or drive to him or vice versa, and I'm sure his family misses him like I know mine missed me.

I've met his mother once, and she seemed to like me; she said she was glad that he had someone he really cared about in his life, which made me so happy, I was SO nervous about meeting her the first time. XD

I got him Christmas presents, and I was planning to mail them to his dorm, but I just found out that they're restricting mail for the week of Christmas. So, I'm thinking of mailing it directly to his family's home.

In short, I've only met his mother and that was all of once. Do you think it's appropriate to send his presents to his house, and put him in the position of explaining who they came from to everyone there? It's not a matter of shame; he's a bit of a reserved guy and I don't know how many people he's told about our relationship. He hates being put on the spot, and I'm sure alot of us know how it feels to have people give you a weird eye because you're in a LDR. Should I wait and send them after Christmas to his dorm?

I'm getting married in just under three weeks to my boy. We've been dating for over six years and have been LD for about four of those.

His mom- who converted to Judaism to marry his father is freaking out. My fiance doesn't really practice, hasn't in years, and has never once even considered asking me to convert, and we would both consider it to be ludicrously hypocritical to do so just to satisfy her.

The woman is fairly unhinged and xenophobic to an alarming degree. She insists that any children we have will be "confused" by their mixed heritage (I'm Hispanic btw, born in Texas, lived here all my life, but speak terrible Spanish...) and won't have a sense of identity, either in religion or culture.

Um. Right. The 1950's called and they want their stupid racist comments back.

So this goes out to you, my LDers- I figured that with so many people in relationships that span the nation, and the world you would have some insight. Maybe some of your are the products of mixed parentage. Has this affected you at all? Have you ever felt a negative impact from having a mixed culture or a mixed relationship? Did you ever feel you lacked an identity?

Honestly, this isn't even something that crossed my mind other than a "I wonder if I can get him to eat _____ some time if I make it" musing. We both find it ridiculous and have a handful of friends with mixed backgrounds and they seem to function just fine. XD What can you all share with me?

Ok, so I'm not sure who among us has heard about, or will be affected by this. Basically, British Airways will be striking, as of the 22nd, and continuing through the 2nd of January. Wow, that's just... mean:(

I'm guessing that I'm not the only one who's been following this (my boy will be flying 20th-21st, and we knew this could potentially derail his plans), but I wanted to be sure to post this here, so that anyone who didn't could start re-planning ASAP. This might be a good place for people who've been through anything similar, or anyone who might have suggestions about navigating this mess, to post ideas. :-\

hey everyone! i need some quick help.

yesterday Micah and i had a pretty big conflict, which led to both of us getting kind of mean, angry, and upset. the end result was that i confessed some things that really bug me about our relationship dynamic, and he felt pretty awful about them and says that he wants to change, starting now.

this afternoon, as i was cramming for my first final of the semester, i got a message that i had a package at desk. when i went downstairs, i found a vase with a small bouquet of roses with a little teddy bear and a box of nice chocolates, with a sweet message from him saying, "Consider this a new beginning, love, Micah". i know they weren't cheap (because flower deliveries never are) and they really brightened up my day and give me faith that our relationship is going to be okay and we can work through these problems together.

so here's my dilemma. i want to do something similarly sweet/thoughtful/showing him that i have faith in us. unfortunately, his school doesn't have the convenience of delivery to dormitories (all packages/deliveries go to the student center) and it often takes days before students' packages are logged and students are able to pick them up. hence, sending flowers would be pretty difficult and i can't send a care package or anything because we'll both be leaving for home in 5 days.

does anyone have suggestions for things that i can do right now, tonight? i already send him e-cards and texts and whatnot, so i'm wondering if there's a fancy e-card site that i could order a "one-time-only" e-card from that might be suitable, or maybe if i could order a phone serenade from somewhere? i'm thinking about ordering him delivery for dinner tonight so that the delivery guy shows up right after he gets home from work, at about 8 pm...what do you think? i don't have a lot of time to spend designing/planning something because i have a final worth 40% of my grade tomorrow, so i'm looking for something fairly simple, too.

any feedback is really appreciated! since i can't show up at his door with a box of cookies, i'm trying to find the next best thing. i figure that some of you have experience with similar conflicts/resolutions!

thanks everyone. hope those of you in college are feeling good about your finals, and that everyone is looking forward to the holidays!

cheers,
augustine

I don't know why, but it seems as if the closer it gets to him going home the more stressed and hopeless I feel. Things have been a little rocky in terms of communication as of late, and as it comes closer to him coming home I feel more panicked. As hopeful as I am that our communication and expression of feelings towards one another will instantly improve, i'm afraid that the hurt that has already been done will ruin any chance of making things right again. Ergggg. I'm frustrated, and I miss you babe.

What do you do to keep from going crazy when you can't seem to make contact with a typically easy to reach SO?

My boyfriend and I keep pretty frequent phone contact either via call or text. When I called this morning, he was already awake. Turns out, he hadn't gone to bed. He'd stayed up all night playing Madden with the guys (who had done some drinking). Whatever. So, he goes out to play frisbee golf late this morning, calls me after that and tells me that he and the guys are going to get lunch. He told me he'd call me right after. It's been hours and no contact. So, I called and texted. No answer or return call/text.

The worry is setting in. The kind that has the constant stream of paranoid thoughts running through my head: "What if there was an accident? What if the driver fell asleep at the wheel? What if what if what if?"

It's not that I don't trust him. It's just that gut-wrenching fear that SOMETHING HAPPENED.

Ugh, aspects of LDR like this are so frustrating...

Wishing I could be with him for Christmas...but we still have no idea when we'll be together again.

This News Years is going to be tough for me...because last year we were together. Last year we were determined to make this our year-the year we finally were together forever. But...that didn't happen.

I am happy to see so many who get to reunite for Christmas and I hope you enjoy it. Take lots of pics, I wanna see them!

So who is reuniting for Christmas? :D Tell us when and where you're going, what your plans are, how you're feeling... anything.

I know there's been a few posts, but just thinking it would be interesting to have a whole thread about it. As for me, I'm returning (from Japan) back to England on the 23rd. I'll be there for 2 weeks, spending the time with my family and boyfriend. This is our first reunion since I left 3 and a half months ago. I'm feeling excited, but also very nervous! I'm a bit worried things won't be the same as they were before I left. On top of that, I think my boyfriend is proposing. It's something we talked about quite a bit when I first got here, but lately not so much. I'm thinking maybe he is nervous too. I don't really know what he has planned but if I get home and everything just feels the same as it did before I left, I will say yes for sure :) btw we have been togther for nearly 3 years.

and in that week he's proposing..
this is basically what i posted in my forum.. and it's alot.. so i'm just copy&pasting it here..
okay.. so for those of you who know things about me and my SO.. steven.. you know that we've been together a couple months now.. talked for a while.. went to hs together.. yada yada yada.. well things with him are so different.. i used to always be so hard headed about falling in love so fast... and with him i did.. i fell so fast and so hard..

i used to be so stubborn on dating another military after matt cheated on me when we were engaged.. and after that i never thought i would.. wanna take marriage into consideration.. especially when i dated josh.. he was so abusive.. physically and verbally.. he would bring up marriage and it would scare me even more.. but with steven.. i want a forever with him.. he's so amazing to me.. he makes me soo happy.. he's so great to me.. and my family loves him.. he's just all around.. wonderful.. i love him.. with everything i got..

well tonight.. in fact right now.. we we're IMing.. and the conversation started out with how happy i make him and how i'm the best thing to happen to him.. and then out of no where.. he said how all his guy friends keep asking him when is he going to marry me.. but he followed it up with 'i wouldn't want to put you through all this as my wife, it'll he hard on you' i was confused at first.. but we're going through our first deployment in the spring..
my response was.. 'either way, gf or wife.. i'm going through it.. and i dont think a ring is going to make a difference of how much i'm going to stress, worry and miss you'.. and then he asked if i thought it would harder being my wife.. instantly i knew what was wrong.. so i told him 'i dont think things can get any harder than they are now' he was quiet for a bit.. mind you this.. we're webcamming too.. so i told him 'look i know what is wrong here, your afraid to make me your wife bc your deploying, and that will be 6 months of our relationship apart, and in that time.. you think i'm going to be scared.. and leave.. bc that is what other girls would do.. but i'm not other girls.. in 6 months i'm going to be standing right beside you supporting you.. well not literally beside you.. but you know what i mean' my joke softened the mood..
he was all you dont i'm moving too fast.. bc most ppl think i move to fast in relationships.. and then he continued with ppl dont see it this way.. i know what i want and i am all in for it.. either i love you or i dont, either i want to spend the rest of my life with you or i dont.. but sometimes ppl stop me.. so interrupted and asked 'in this case, how am i stopping you?' and he said.. idk how your going to react.. so i said 'if you asked me to marry you over IM your just lame.. but either way.. their is no doubt in my mind that i would say yes.. i love you.. i love the way you make me feel.. you make so happy.. you are everything i wanted when i wasn't even looking, but i'm glad i found you'
so then it led to him proposing sometime when he's home.. and finding a ring.. so i was all 'ooo i'll help' haha.. he laughed.. he was all isn't the whole ring thing supposed to be a surprise.. he was all idk i've never done this before but i think it is.. but i said.. well sice you dont know about jewelrey.. i'm just here to help you out.. and he was all screw it.. in our case we already know it's going to happen.. might as well.. so he took information on what i like in rings.. and he bought me a i'm guessing 10 or 14k white gold, 3stone princess cute engagement ring.. i have the picture..
but i wanted to ask you ladies what you thought.. i know how i feel about it.. and i know what i'm going to do.. but i want someone else perspective on it.. i know the majority of y'all or going to say i'm happy for you.. yada yada.. but i want honest opinions.. if that is your honest opinion.. whoo hoo.. i am so happy.. my best friend.. who is a total hater.. pretty much just let me have it on how stupid i am.. and how i'm making the biggest mistake of my life.. i know my family is supportive of it.. even though only me and my mom have discussed it.. and she's supportive of it.. my dad loves him.. but he might be a lil tougher..
i wanna know what you girls think.. bc once upon a time you were the ones about the get engaged to your military SO and your going to in the near future.. and i wanna know what you think..

Edit: i forgot a question.. do you think it's cheating bc i know what ring i'm getting? i mean idk when he's going to propose i just know it's sometime when he comes home..
sorry for babling!


edited:changed spelling(:
and italics.

So well, I know everyone's excited for christmas visits etc, so sorry to be a downer but this has been playing on my mind recently.

( cut for rambling )

Hi!

My name is Chelsey. I am a senior at Oglethorpe University in Atlanta. I've studied in the UK on trips a couple of times (Uni. Westminster and Oxford) and am including UK schools in my grad school quest.

For this summer, I have been offered a (BUNAC) internship with the Royal Association for Disability Rights (I'm disabled, have been an advocate for years). I'm working on finding funding sources for airfare and such, and was wondering whether you lovelies had any ideas.

Also, what's the best option for 3 month housing in London?

My SO is coming home today for three weeks for Christmas !

I'm so nervous, as it's so strange having him back home. I get used to not seeing him, and expecting him to just turn up on my doorstep! Just a few hours to go noww!

I hope everyone else has a lovely Christmas, and my thoughts are with those who cannot be together this holiday.

Rebecca xx

i know i haven't posted in soo long.. the last weeks of school got very hectic.. but here is a lil update.. in 9days.. i will be picking him up from the airport.. and he will be spending christmas with me.. i'm excited.. we survived our first underway.. and in spring we will survive our first deplyment.. i couldn't be happier in my LDR..